Loving Children Vs Having Children

Recently, been hearing from almost everywhere "so & so getting married".. Geez.. some of them around my age, some older by 4 years.. wonder if its their biological clock ticking? Hence the tying the knot phase..

Well, according to studies, tying the knot is a phase in human life.. the main aim is of course to reproduce heir.. apparently the so call love that seems to exist between both parties are also part of the instinct due to reproduction alarm clocks ringing away..

I wonder if its within my circle of friends or if its a common phenonmenon that guys these days want to have kids as much as gals do.. the tables seem to have turned the other way around..

The Life! featured a writeup on how a columnist looked at kids lovingly now instead of seeing them as pests..then Brad Pitt also apparently left Jennifer with the same issue..

Apart from celebrities, my guy friends also told me same thing as well.. I was like " are you kidding me?" The answer is a NO.. then the reasons of " I love kids", " its not complete without kids" etc come running out..

This is a huge issue.. though my family side have quite a number of children running around..I still don't see it as a norm to have kids.. my cousins and I have quite a handful of experience from all the nieces and nephews running around..(we had to babysit during new year, traffic control their movements)

But there is a difference between loving children and having children, worlds apart yah? Loving children doesn't involve responsibility and committment whereas having children does.. if I go on, its going to be an essay.. but that is the idea..

The last time a guy told me he wanted kids definitely, he was dropped from my list.. this kind of issue, there should be a freedom of choice. At least the other party can have breathing space..

Hence, my conclusion is its important to know the other party's expectations even before stepping into a relationship. If not, its going to be tough if both parties are not going to compromise. By then, the separation will hurt both parties to the core..

For me, I am still on the fence. There is no definite answer.. It depends on lots of factors in life. Well, for the moment I am still a bit leaning towards the tendency of not having children..
But who knows what the future lies ahead? Afterall I still have time to think about it..

What truly matters is treasuring the moment..