Monetary Benefits Vs Interest

Monetary Benefits Vs Interest

This has been like an itch that refuses to go away until it has been properly treated..

Each time someone gets a job and the mention of renumeration is brought up, this itch will react to it..

All along, I believed in having a job that I should have interest in order to work happily.. Monetary benefits should come secondary as it would not be able to buy happiness..

As compared to most people, I am fortunate to land myself in a job pretty fast in a cool working environment with a good boss.. most importantly, doing events management, something that I had passion for..

In exchange for everything, my monetary benefits are lesser than my peers..Perhaps it is because I am on contract basis.. But even if I am offered a permanent job, how much more will the pay increase?

No doubt, I loved my job, my environment and every single other thing.. But is everything worth it?

All the freedom that I am having now as compared to my peers is very much different.. The different kinds of people in various industry brings me much joy..

Why is it that a interest-based job often does not have as much monetary benefits?

It is an itch in the skin that refuses to go away until I can reconcile within myself..

Communication Is the Basis of Relationships

Title: Communication Is the Basis of Relationships

We communicate to put our ideas, thoughts and opinions across to the other party..

If there is no communication, then there will not be any understanding.. Conflicts and mistrust will hence arise..

I am a firm believer that communication is the basis of relationships.. Relationships refer to kinship, friendship and love between parties..

A relationship will not last nor sustain without open communication.. because no one will know what each other is thinking..

When it has come to the point that no communication is becomng a norm, someone has to do something before nothing can be done..

By communicating, you relate your thoughts for the other party and allow them to understand you..

Since it seems so easy, then why are people not doing it enough?

Is it because of pride? Lack of time?

If those are the reasons, let me tell you this.. Those are just excuses..
If the will to communicate is there, no matter how hard and tough it is, you wil overcome it ..

One cent worth of thoughts~

Two Overgrown Children

Title: Two Overgrown Children

There were two overgrown children who decided to go shopping together..Everything was fascinating for them..

They were wide-eyed and amazed at the wide array of goods displayed before their eyes.. They had fun, shared silly jokes and exchanged insider news..

What a sight to behold! With either one around, there will never be silence..
For they bring along joy, laughter and perhaps chaos..

When there is day, there is night..
It seems that the strings between them remains entangled..

Two overgrown children playing together..

Last minute again..

Title: Last Minute Again

Strange.. why is it that when come to events that I have to be a particpant instead of an organiser, my preparation is always last minute?!

Convocation.. cousin's wedding.. friend's wedding..first interview..DnD..

U name it, I have it..

Seriously cannot think of any event that I actually prepared in advance for it..

Even convocation, supposedly the biggest ceremony of one's life apart from wedding(though I do not agree) was prepared last minute as well..

Borrowed the top and shoes from Delphine.. my pins and safety pins also bought by her.. Plus a reminder sms from her on what to do, wear and what not to do, wear..

Amazingly, I pulled off the whole thing without a stitch except for the slight hiccup along the stage.. Bleah..

Now, a faculty friend wedding and as usual.. I had to shop for clothes unless I recycled my clothes.. Out of desperation and lack of time, I grabbed a purple/ yellow spagetthi dress..

Hopefully I would wear it often.. But well I enjoyed my shopping which is often done in a rush and decided within a spilt second to buy or not..

Thankfully this time round, I have the heels to go with it.. Just need to get the right accessories and hairstyle to have the right look..

I guess all in all it's because all these things are not on my top priority list hence always delayed until last minute, no choice then do..

Well.. will try to plan in advance to lessen my buddy's nightmare of planning for me..
What will I do if I do not have my personal assistant!! =)

Thank you Delphine..

Married away..

Title: Married Away...

The matchmaker yelled out loudly" We are here to bring the bride to her in-laws place" With the sedan and loud instrumental music in place, everyone was out to join in the happy occasion..

Back in the house, the mother and father looked tearfully at their daughter.. A furry of emotions ran through their hearts.. They knew it was time for her to leave the nest, to pursue her happiness, her future.. At the same time, they feared for her ability to adapt in a new environment..

The daughter gazed back at them, tears falling down her face.. Today marked the day of her entry into a brand new world.. a whole new game.. She wondered if she was ever going to be back home again anytime soon..


Mother and father spoke" Dear gal, this will always be your home. Do not hesitate to come back, we will welcome you back with open arms at anytime. We believe in you..You will do us proud and bring glory to us."

The daughter attempted to reply but failed.. She was too emotional to reply.. For the first time, she did not feel like leaving.. She wanted to just stay here forever yet she knew in order to grown and learn, she had to leave..

Slowly, she made her way to the sedan with her parents by her side.. She prayed that her in-laws would love her for who she was.. She prayed that the husband would love her for her qualities..

In her heart, she knew she would pull it off.. When the time is ripe, she would return home once again to her parents and her nest..

You still remember me...

Title: You still rememeber me...

It was a pleasant suprise when I received a msn message from you asking me why I did not invite you down for convocation..

For once, it never occur to me that you will wan to come for my convocation.. It has been long since we really chatted normally..

A year ago, we went to a friend convocation together.. The friendship was blooming but it went down when you had some problems you could not solve..

No matter how I tried to help, you pushed me away.. you pushed all of us away.. But I am glad I stood by you even though I felt helpless, disappointed and sad..

I can only tell you" I am always here for you if you need someone to listen, to talk to.." Gradually you pulled yourself out..

What goes around comes around.. I am thankful that you still remember me and that you still can talk to me normally once again.. May this friendship bloom and may we stay as good friends too..

Flowers..

Title: Flowers..

Someone once told me " all gals love to receive flowers even when they say they don't.."

Till now, it seems to be quite true for my gal friends around me..but for me, I am pretty neutral..

Most gals go head over heels when they receive roses..apparently it seems roses represent love and hence romantic feel..

But what is it so romantic when almost every other gal receives roses from someone they like?

Roses have been over-romanticised and commercialised.. Now it is just a money spinning tool for florists..

Naturally, I have my own preference of flowers as well.. But they aren't exactly the favourites for most people though..

Orchids are my number 1 choice.. I remember receiving once from a swappie for some occasion which I cannot remember.. and the second time was on my 21st birthday by swappies and SDE Jiemeis.. Till this day, it still brings a smile to me at the thought of how 21 people sprung a surprise on me then..

People laugh when they hear about my favourite flower because they will say " so loyal to Singapore ah?" Well, I always say this " I love orchids and I love Singapore"

There is a place called Orchidville along Mandai Road where they cultivate different breeds of orchids.. The 1st D&D for SWAPS was held there and I fell in love with the place..

Me and Fang still remembered the place fondly where we went there to buy 2 huge bouquets of orchids home at wholesale prices.. It is a good place to destress to lose yourself among the wide variety of orchids..

But this place is only accessible by car or taxi.. I look forward to going there again to buy orchids back..

Flowers look so pretty.. but they don't last.. At the end of the day, petals fall off, the stem wilts down.. everything falls back to the ground.. Just like us humans.. impermanence..

Too Many Nokia Phones..

Title: Too Many Nokia Phones

Before any exclaimations are made, let me clarify.. Those Nokia phones do not belong to me.. Yet I am stuck with both Nokia phones till don't know when..

Sigh.. it's part of the job.. I was tasked with trying out N80 and the other(can't remember) Nokia phone to test out how to blog through phone..

I have never liked or used Nokia phones because I feel they are not user-friendly and the designs are really not that fantastic..

But.. the event I am doing is a Nokia sponsered event hence well you know..

Almost everyone tell me they envy my job for trying out the phones.. But do you know the inconveniences that come along?

For once, I have to figure from scratch how to use the phone, what functions, what buttons..

Next, some of my contacts are in my faithful phone and hence I get mystery numbers sometimes..

My time and date has got to be reset over and over.. And because of that, I was late for work because the time was delayed by one hour..

What else? The awful ring tone and sms tone.. the weight of the phone.. please spare me.. take back the phones as soon as possible..

Bet some of you would be laughing.. but if you were me, you won't laugh.. sigh!

It's alright even if the winner isn't her..

Title: It's alright even if the winner isn't her..

"Checkmate.." The boy said.. The girl looked on in disbelief..

When was the last time she lost the game? It had been some time since she was defeated..

A master at defense games, she was very confident of her skills..

But once a while, she would lost guard and lost the game.. But she realised everything happened for a reason.. and behind every reason, there was a lesson to be learnt..

" It is alright even if the winner isn't me for I know your weakness and strategy now.." The gal replied calmly..

She had found her peace and composure.. The essence lies in having no expectations, facing all issues with a neutral mindset..

Perhaps she may not be the winner, but deep down she knows that winning or losing no longer matters..

I hate it when..

Title: I hate it when..

I hate it when I have to disguise my feelings..

I hate it when I am totally unhappy and yet I have to say I am ok..

I hate it when I cannot express my feelings straight..

I hate it when I have to beat around the bush..

I hate it when I have to play mind games..

I hate it when I am being accused wrongly..

I hate it when people lied to me..

I hate it when people betrayed me..

I hate it when promises are being broken..

I hate it when my freedom is being restricted..

I hate it when the questioning/ commanding tone is being used..

I hate it when animals/humans/ other things are being abused..

I hate it when I am being taken for granted..

The list can go on and on.. but the above are things that I can immediately think of..
When I confide in you, I place my 100% trust in you..
If ever the trust is broken, it will be like a mirror with a crack..
When the door is open, it remains open for that period of time..
When the time comes, the door will remain close until the timing is right..

Instant mental gratification

Title: Instant Mental Gratification

Humans are easily dissatisfied with things in life, or rather it is seldom that humans are geninuely satisfied..

From a human perspective, instant mental gratification is what we want, need and demand it.. Simple said, instant mental gratification means whatever we want, we want it NOW..not then or later but NOW NOW NOW..

When ZhiXing Shifu suggested this idea to me, my instant reaction was one of defensive.. There, I just proved his theory right..

Later, coming back to think of it.. it is really true.. How many times have I wanted things to go my way and wanted it immediately?

How many times have I refused to wait for the right timing and wanted it to happen instantly?

It is true.. we must learn to be patient.. Recognise the fact that we are constantly seeking instant mental gratification and accept it.. Slowly, this monkey mind will be tamed to realise that things do not always go the way it wants..

This much being said, it is often easier said then done.. If you are in a "between shores" situation, neither here and there, how do you ensure that instant mental gratification is tamed down?

Perhaps waiting is the only thing left for the mind to do.. Patiently waiting for the correct conditions to happen at the right place and right time..

Have a think on it.. Perhaps you too will understand what I am trying to put across..=)

What's the link between world cup and ODAC amazing race?

Title: What's the link between World Cup and ODAC amazing race trial?

If without any hints from anyone, you can guess the link then you are truly amazing..

The ODAC amazing race part 1 and 2 ended so early that I wanted to thank my lucky stars..

The ODAC amazing race part 3 started so late till I had sufficient beauty sleep..

Well.. the organisers had an hidden agenda.. They planned it around the timetable of World Cup..

Yup.. that is the link.. The World Cup affects the timing of the race trial run..

For the umpteen time, I can never understand the fascination between a soccer match..

The Life! article wrote that guys feel they are part of the game, in other words, they felt responsible if the team wins/ loses the game..

Ever since I had knowledge, I only remembered having interest in basketball.. Lucky for me, there are friends around me who played basketball with me also.. If not, I would feel super left out and neglected in this season of World Cup..

Enough of my rambles on World Cup.. The amazing race trial was fun though tiring.. The part 2 when ZY and me had to race against 2 ODAC gals were the most exciting..

Used all our brain cells and whatever that we could to try and win.. in the end we won.. credits go to Fang, our supporting partner of the day and a tag along by the name of Darren who gave hints once a while and brought us the the nice dessert stall..

The amazing race has yet to begin.. But it will be a good one that the organisers, helpers and participants will enjoy..

If you happened to be interested, you can go to www.nusodac.net/race4 to check it out.. I know all the checkpoints though BUT I am not telling..

Try bribing me and maybe I will be tempted to say it..

Keeping things to myself

Title: Keeping things to myself

Sometimes I keep things to myself because no one is there for me to talk to..

Sometimes there is someone to lend a listening ear but they cannot relate to what I am thinking..

Sometimes the person is there but the mind is not so why bother even talking..

Sometimes I just do not feel secure enough to tell someone because I do not want to be judged..

Sometimes keeping things to myself maintain the peace among friends and family..

Sometimes the truth hurts and people are not ready to hear it so it stays with me..

Sometimes it is just so tiring to open my mouth to talk..

Sometimes I am just another ordinary little gal with dreams to pursue..

Sometimes..sometimes..

Single Molecular Being- Cell

Single Molecular Being- Cell

This entire entry is dedicated to a dear friend of mine.. a single molecular being/ basic unit of life by the name of Cell..

Sometimes when the friend is around for you in all occasions, you do not realise the importance of his presence.. Now I do..

Cell is in hibernation now.. Hence I avoid disturbing as much as possible.. Suddenly I missed him..

Despite all the 'torture' he gave me..the 'reconfiguration' of Sab as he called it.. I missed him..

I missed him like how a spiritual friend does, a good friend does, a sister does..

The enjoyable times we spent hanging at cafes, the overnight talking session, the movie sessions, the 'torture' sessions and the memorable showflat session.. bits and pieces of it flowed out from the memory..

He brought me joy and pain.. He brought me happiness and unhappiness.. but still I missed him..

Thank you for being there all these times.. truly enjoyed your company.. this path has been entertaining and enjoyable with your presence..